Monday, December 3, 2012

One Conversation.

He came to my house over the weekend to hang out with me. As we talked, he stared out the window and muttered something. I leaned closer and asked him what he said. He turned to me and grinned, "Just stating the fact that I've been forever friend-zoned."
I glared at him, "Oh, whatever!"
He locked eyes with me then said seriously, "I'm being honest. Most girls go through a stage of absolutely HATING me, I may not show it, but it affects me more than they think... In other words, most people wouldn't care if I were to disappear tomorrow."
I wanted to hug him, squeeze all the sadness out of him. In my head I cried, I care!! Seriously, like when I lose my phone I freak out like a maniac... I can't imagine what I would do if I lost you... I would probably break something. Like a chair. Like a stupid chair with stupid legs. Because I would never see you again. I couldn't do it... 
Instead I smiled at him, "I would miss you, and I can think of plenty of other people who would too."
He shook his head and laughed sarcastically, "Thanks Annie."

I learned a few amazing things from just a short conversation:

1.) What we say to and do to others may affect them more than we could ever understand or know. Whether it's teasing, ignoring and obviously just being plain rude because you don't like them, it's not okay. When it comes down to it, nobody deserves to be treated like trash. There are other ways to handle situations of anger and annoyance, making them feel miserable is not the right method.

2.) When you care about someone, tell them. It doesn't have to mean that you confess some kind of undying love for that person, but telling them that they mean something to you can hugely benefit them. Sometimes, I think that we think that people should just realize that we care about them, and usually I guess they do, but it's a whole other thing for you to actually say it to them. You never know when a person is feeling low, and how knowing someone cares that they exist could totally change them.

3.) Despite what lots of people say, I think true friendship can go on into the next life. It may not be everybody you've ever been friends with, maybe it's not the people you laughed with, cried with, hung out with, or maybe it's not even the people you called 'best friend'. But part of me knows that there are people who were put in our lives to benefit us so greatly, that they will be held onto. And who knows, one of those people might be the person you marry.

4.) This one is kind of more personal I guess is what you would say. But I realized that I don't think I like him the way I thought I did. My emotions got confused. I like being around him, I like talking to him, I like him... but I don't "like-like" him... I hope.


Now as a closing thought, I just love my friends, so much it's not even funny.

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